Imām ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:

“How many people have caused misery to their own children, the apples of their eyes, in this world and in the Hereafter, by neglecting them, not disciplining them, encouraging them to follow their whims and desires, thinking that they were honouring them when they were in fact humiliating them, that they were being merciful to them when in fact they were wronging them.

They have not benefited from having a child, and they have made the child lose his share in this world and in the Hereafter.

If you think about the corruption of children you will see that in most cases it is because of the parents.”

[Tuhfat al-Mawlood, Page. 146]

A man will be raised in status in Paradise and will say, ‘Where did this come from?’ And it will be said: ‘From your son’s praying for forgiveness for you.’”

Narrated by Ibn Majah (3660); classed as hasan by al-Albani in as-Silsilah as-Sahihah (4/129).

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Imam Ahmad's reaction on the birth of the daughters.


Ibn al Qayyim said:
وقال صالح بن أحمد : كان أبي إذا ولد له ابنة يقول : الأنبياء كانوا آباء بنات . ويقول : قد جاء في البنات ما قد علمت .
وقال يعقوب بن بختان : ولد لي سبع بنات ، فكنت كلما ولد لي ابنة دخلت على أحمد بن حنبل فيقول لي : يا أبا يوسف ، الأنبياء آباء بنات ؛ فكان يذهب قوله همي
Saaleh bin Ahmad said: Whenever a daughter would born to my father (Ahmad bin Hanbal), He would say: The Prophets were the fathers of the daughters, and You know what is mentioned regarding them (in Quran and sunnah).
Yaqub bin Bakhtan said: I had 7 daughters and Imam Ahmad would come to me and say: O Abu Yusaf: The Prophets were fathers of the daughters, His saying would relief my sorrow. [Tuhfa tul Mawdood page 26]

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𝐎𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐃𝐚𝐲

𝔸𝕝𝕝𝕒𝕙 سبحانه وتعالى 𝕊𝕒𝕪𝕤,

يَوْمَ يَفِرُّ الْمَرْءُ مِنْ أَخِيهِ

"(That will be) the Day a man will flee from his brother.

وَأُمِّهِ وَأَبِيهِ

And (from) his mother and his father.

وَصَاحِبَتِهِ وَبَنِيهِ

And (from) his wife and his children."

[Qur'an 80:34-36]

Al-Qurtubi رحمه الله mentioned some of the reasons why a person will flee from his close and beloved on the Day of Resurrection.

🔹Every person will be preoccupied (worried) about themselves.

🔹Out of fear of being asked for rights that are due upon him from others.

🔹He will not want others to see the severe and difficult situation he is in.

🔹Due to him knowing that he will not be helped and benefited by them in any way whatsoever.

[Tafseer al-Qurtubi, vol.22, pgs.89-90, Resalah Publishers, 1st edition]

Always be honest with ur kids, don't just teach them to be honest, SHOW them honesty.

This hadith reminds me of this incident of Imam Bukhari (rahmatullah):

Imam Bukhari (rahimahullaah) travelled to meet a man in order to take hadeeth from him. But he saw this man calling his horse with an empty vessel in his hand, as if there was food in that vessel, moving it in order for the horse to come near so he can grab the horse. So Imam Bukahri asked him, “What is in that vessel?” And the man said, “Nothing.” Then Imam Bukhari said, “By Allaah, I will NOT take hadeeth from you, because you are a LIAR.” Subhaan Allah!

Reference for the hadith: 'Abdullah said, "Lying is not correct, neither in seriousness nor in jest. None of you should promise his child something and then not give it to him." [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 387: classed Sahih by Shaykh Al Albaani]

Paying back your mother

Ibn Umar رضي الله عنه saw a Yemeni man doing tawaf carrying his mother, and he was saying:

“I am her humble camel. If her mount is scared, I am not scared.”

Then he said,

“O Ibn Umar, do you think I have repaid her?”

Ibn Umar رضي الله عنه said:

“No, not even for a single pang (of pregnancy).”

A RIGHTEOUS UPBRINGING IS THROUGH EXAMPLE

The performance of worship is the greatest aid to the woman in fulfilling her household duties with perfection.
The righteous woman is the one who fulfills her role in the desired fashion. Likewise, the basis of a righteous upbringing is through example, as the woman performing this worship with humility and serenity has the greatest effect upon those within the home, from the children and other than them. When the woman perfects her Wudū and then stands before her Lord with humility and submission, then she will cultivate the children upon these good qualities through her example, in addition to a clarification and direction through her speech.

Book: A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family
By Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān
Translated by Raha Batts
Hikmah Publications
P. 23, 24

Treasure your mothers for when the day that comes when she is no longer here is the when a deep seated heartache nestles itsself in your heart and no amount of tears can ease it.

'Children listen best with their eyes. What you do is what they hear.'

When a servant is hot tempered we play with him just as kids play with a ball .. said the devil.

Ibn ‘Umar, [may Allāh be pleased with him and his father], said:

“O’ you there! Teach and guide your son in cultivating good manners because, as a parent, you hold a responsibility for him, and in turn, he bears the responsibility of reflecting your kindness.”

Mawsū‘ah ibn Abi ad-Dunyah, 8/78 | Al-Imam ibn Abi Dunyah, [may Allāh bestow mercy upon him].

Translation: Authentic Quotes

Parents, teach your children responsibility and discipline at home, as part of proper tarbiya.

When you coddle and baby your children because you want to avoid the difficult task of child-raising, you foist irresponsible and insufferable grown infants on society and force others to raise your children for you when it's way past the time for raising them.

Instead of this being your problem, you've made it everyone else's problem.

Not only is this unfair to society, it is unfair to your children, who were not raised properly and find themselves inept and incompetent as adults.

The solution is for parents to give their children the appropriate amount of love and mercy on the one hand, as well as "tough love" and justice on the other, and to instill in the children a sense of responsibility, accountability, and discipline.

Don't force society to teach all this to your children. If you can't bring yourself to be "harsh" with your children, know that society will be much harsher when teaching them these lessons.

The irony is that modern people consider a mother who stays home to raise her children properly "not contributing to society."

How ironic!

Its decision you choose to make?? Crackhead or preacher.

Teach your children from a young age that it isn't allowed for us to join Christmas parties or exchange gifts on these occasions; we only have two Eids, Eidul Fitr & Eidul Ad'ha.

علّموا أطفالكم من بداية صغرهم أنه ليس مسموحاً لنا الانضمام إلى حفلات عيد الميلاد أو تبادل الهدايا في هذه المناسبات؛ لدينا فقط عيدين، عيد الفطر وعيد الأضحى.

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To all the amazing Fathers!
May Allah bless you all with nothing but al firdous al alaa - Ameen!

📚 Abu Darda reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The father is the middle of the gates of Paradise. If you wish, you can squander this gate or keep to it.”
[Sunan al-Tirmidhī]

Useful Advice on Raising Children Which Will Have Good Consequences When the Child Grows Up

This is an excerpt from the book of: Imam Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah (d. 751 AH), a famous book called Tuhfat al-Mawdood bi Ahkaam al-Mawlood. One of the most important chapters of his book is the sixteenth chapter, which is ennoscriptd Fi fusool naafi’ah fi Tarbiyat al-Atfaal tuhmad ‘awaaqibuha ‘ind al-Kabr (Useful advice on raising children which will have good consequences when the child grows up).

Here is a summary of what Ibn Qayyim said:

1. The child should be breastfed by someone other than his mother, two or three days after birth. That is better because her milk after that time will be thick and contain different ingredients, unlike the milk of one who has been breastfeeding for a while. All the Arabs pay attention to that, and they give their children to desert women to breastfeed, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was given to Banu Sa’d to be breastfed among them.

2. They should not be picked up and carried around until they are three months old or more, because they have only recently emerged from their mother’s wombs and their bodies are still weak.

3. They should be given only milk until their teeth appear, because their stomachs are weak and unable to digest food. When the baby’s teeth appear, his stomach has grown strong and is able to be nourished by food. Food should be introduced gradually.

4. When they approach the age where they will begin to speak and one wants to make it easy for them to speak, a little honey and salt should be placed on the infant’s tongue, because they contain substances that will reduce the excessive moisture that prevents speech. When the child begins to speak, one should prompt him to say Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Muhammad Rasool Allaah.

5. When the time for the teeth to appear comes, the gums should be rubbed every day with butter and ghee.

6. Parents should not get upset when the child cries and yells, because he benefits greatly from that crying. It exercises his limbs, opens his intestines and chest, keeps his brain warm, warms his moods, provokes his energy, creates suitable conditions for expelling waste matter, and helps rid the brain of mucus and other waste.

7. The child should be protected against everything that may scare him of harsh and terrifying noises, frightening scenes and disturbing movements.

8. Complete breastfeeding lasts for two years. This is the right of the child if he needs it and cannot do without it. The Qur’aan confirmed that by adding the word kaamilayn (meaning complete or whole, in the verse “The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years” [al-Baqarah 2:233]). If the one who is breastfeeding the child wants to wean him, she should wean him gradually, and not wean him suddenly in one go; rather she should get him used to it slowly because of the harm that may be done by changing the child’s food and habit in one go.

9. It is mistreatment of children to allow them to eat their fill of food, and to eat and drink a lot. One of the most beneficial ways of training them is to give them less than their fill, so that they may digest well and be in good health, there will be less waste in their bodies and their bodies will be healthy, and they will have less sickness because of having less food waste in their bodies.

10. One thing that the child needs most urgently is close attention to his moral well being. He grows up with whatever the one who is raising him gets him used to when he is small. [If it is] resentment, anger, arguments, haste, being easily led by whims and desires, foolishness, hot-temperedness and greed, then it will be difficult for him to change that when he grows up. Hence you will find that most people are deviant in their character, because of the way they were brought up.